"When you train from a problem, your nervous system stays stuck in reaction. You’re trying to outrun what you don’t like. But when you train from vision? Everything changes."
In clinical work, we’re often taught to approach change through problems or diagnoses. But what I've noticed is that lasting transformation happens when someone is ready to embody a new version of themselves—not just fix what feels “wrong.”
For example, are you ready to explore the emotional patterns that drive you to reach for food when you're uncomfortable—or do you just want to "fix the weight problem" so you don’t have to understand yourself more deeply or practice greater self-compassion?
What you’ve described isn’t just more effective, it’s more compassionate—especially for those conditioned to believe they’re broken. Thank you for your insights, Mike. I always appreciate your writing.
Leah, I really appreciate how you put this—especially the distinction between fixing what feels wrong and embodying a new version of self. That’s right in line with the work I do too.
Your example around food and self-compassion is such a powerful illustration of what it means to train from vision rather than reaction. And I felt your point about compassion deeply—this approach really does meet people differently, especially those who’ve carried the belief that they’re broken.
At my studio, students often tell me they grew up being told they’d never be able to do certain things—but through the training, they start to see for themselves that they’re far more capable than they believed.
Fantastic advice. This part especially resonated:
"When you train from a problem, your nervous system stays stuck in reaction. You’re trying to outrun what you don’t like. But when you train from vision? Everything changes."
In clinical work, we’re often taught to approach change through problems or diagnoses. But what I've noticed is that lasting transformation happens when someone is ready to embody a new version of themselves—not just fix what feels “wrong.”
For example, are you ready to explore the emotional patterns that drive you to reach for food when you're uncomfortable—or do you just want to "fix the weight problem" so you don’t have to understand yourself more deeply or practice greater self-compassion?
What you’ve described isn’t just more effective, it’s more compassionate—especially for those conditioned to believe they’re broken. Thank you for your insights, Mike. I always appreciate your writing.
Leah, I really appreciate how you put this—especially the distinction between fixing what feels wrong and embodying a new version of self. That’s right in line with the work I do too.
Your example around food and self-compassion is such a powerful illustration of what it means to train from vision rather than reaction. And I felt your point about compassion deeply—this approach really does meet people differently, especially those who’ve carried the belief that they’re broken.
At my studio, students often tell me they grew up being told they’d never be able to do certain things—but through the training, they start to see for themselves that they’re far more capable than they believed.
Really appreciate you sharing your reflections.